tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11333690.post111089464969924786..comments2023-06-18T07:10:35.350-07:00Comments on Just call me...CAMERA GIRL!!!: The Purpose of a Wedding PartyTerrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10518520509442567590noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11333690.post-1111069888516687722005-03-17T06:31:00.000-08:002005-03-17T06:31:00.000-08:00I will have one to help me with the reception plan...I will have one to help me with the reception planning rather than leaving it all for Mom or myself to do.Terrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10518520509442567590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11333690.post-1110998907726863322005-03-16T10:48:00.000-08:002005-03-16T10:48:00.000-08:00i think if you weren't getting married in teh temp...i think if you weren't getting married in teh temple then you might need a wedding party like that. you shouldn't have that many things to worry about on your wedding day. that is one of the purposes of the temple wedding. to focus ont he wedding not he party! there is no reason to need a wedding party in and lds wedding other than for pictures.Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09191587359900179250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11333690.post-1110919318125286772005-03-15T12:41:00.000-08:002005-03-15T12:41:00.000-08:00it's not so much a question of which point i'm add...it's not so much a question of which point i'm addressing as which point i'm NOT addressing. i guess that would be that I "don’t think friends ought to be asked to help with weddings." in fact i only said it was impractical to expect help without asking for it specifically. if someone asked me to be a groomsman (or usher), i would expect to seat people. if it were an LDS wedding, i would expect to do absolutely nothing.<BR/><BR/>also, i don't want to be misrepresented concerning my affinity for video games. i've been to a lot of weddings for people i don't know. so, yeah, i could really care less. the only thing holding me there is the $100. no more irritating to have to play a wedding on a nice sunny day than it is to have to teach school.<BR/><BR/>further, every wedding planner (i'm not talking about your mother who did a fine job arranging our reception... we didn't have a wedding planner) i've met is a high-strung control freak. but, i'm a high-strung control freak. there's no shame in that.Joshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02695511274839749248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11333690.post-1110918249527195482005-03-15T12:24:00.000-08:002005-03-15T12:24:00.000-08:00I’m not sure which point you are addressing Josh. ...I’m not sure which point you are addressing Josh. Is it, you don’t think friends ought to be asked to help with weddings or that wedding planners are high strung or that weddings in general are boring and you would rather play a video game than be there?Terrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10518520509442567590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11333690.post-1110898169630593822005-03-15T06:49:00.000-08:002005-03-15T06:49:00.000-08:00Certainly, giving instruction on the role/responsi...Certainly, giving instruction on the role/responsibility thing is a good idea. However, my best man was absolutely phenomenal as a wedding planner. It's been my understanding that this is how best men should run things. But, what the heck, even if it isn't tradition, it did work very well in my case. I hope everyone's wedding could have someone like that, best man or not.Matthewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15873264637235332589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11333690.post-1110896319061761162005-03-15T06:18:00.000-08:002005-03-15T06:18:00.000-08:00i really feel like it is impractical to expect a b...i really feel like it is impractical to expect a bunch of friends to take responsibilities for such logisitics. as a pianist i have attended far too many weddings when i would have rather been playing video games, etc. i have also dealt with more than my fair share of rehearsals and wedding planners/directors. wedding directors are by nature very high-strung control freaks. but they have to be to get the job done. some weddings are planned more intricately than musical theater and some are simple and put together in a few minutes. i have never seen a best man go above and beyond his duty of making the first toast at the rehearsal dinner. i have never seen an usher do more than seat guests and stand at the alter with a great friend on his friend's special day. i have never seen a bridesmaid do anything but look good for the service and pictures. civil wedding ceremonies are so much pomp and circumstance. perhaps your descriptions of wedding party "duties" are from some LDS tradition of which i am not aware. at any rate things may go more smoothly if you do not expect everyone to assume their roles without some instruction. despite any tradition, LDS or otherwise, reality is that wedding party invitations are more "feel-good" than practical. but i have heard that it's kind of taken for granted that brothers-in-law of brides are to be asked to be groomsmen... so...Joshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02695511274839749248noreply@blogger.com